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It\u2019s not always easy to see what isn\u2019t working in your relationship because you\u2019re too close.
\nYou need some distance to truly get a good sense of what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n
Think about your past relationships. I bet you can look back now and see exactly why they didn\u2019t work out. You didn\u2019t have enough in common, they didn\u2019t treat you right, you wanted different things. But at the time, everything seemed rosy, right?<\/p>\n
This can be the same with your current relationship. After a few weeks or months apart, you can objectively look at the relationship.<\/strong> You can see what was good (a lot), and what wasn\u2019t (a few big things) and decide what needs to be addressed to make the partnership work.<\/p>\nThis distance is often enough to give you the perspective you need to turn the relationship around.<\/p>\n
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4. It shakes things up<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
Relationships can get into ruts really easily. It can actually be worse the closer and more connected you are. Your lives get super in sync, you do everything together and things are great. But soon you realize you always seem to do the same things, you\u2019ve drifted apart from your friends and you\u2019re so entrenched in this routine that it\u2019s hard to even think of your life before the relationship.<\/p>\n
A breakup will shake up your day-to-day in a way that\u2019s going to be uncomfortable but can be beneficial too.<\/strong><\/p>\nMaybe you can\u2019t hang out with your usual friends because they took your ex\u2019s side in the breakup? Now you can catch up with other friends who you haven\u2019t seen in forever.
\nThursday night was date night? Use that regular time you set aside to take a yoga class, or just hang out alone, eat doritos, and enjoy some of your newfound freedom.<\/p>\n
These are all going to lead to big changes in your life and change is good. If your relationship suffered because you were both bored, a breakup could be just what you needed to realize this.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n
5. It can help you figure out what you want<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
Relationships can end because one or both of you don\u2019t know what you want. This kind of confusion causes tension because you don\u2019t know what\u2019s expected of you. Maybe you weren\u2019t able to rely on them but you were too afraid to talk to them about it and that caused resentment. Maybe they smothered you with too much attention.<\/p>\n
After you\u2019ve been apart for awhile you\u2019ll be better able to answer these questions:<\/p>\n