Seeing them in this way means that whenever you\u2019re having a hard time with the single life you\u2019ll see them as a solution to this problem but that\u2019s not really how it works.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Things will get better AND you can meet someone else if you decide that\u2019s what you want. That is, unless you two are the last people on earth. In that case, maybe send them a text.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

7. You weren\u2019t compatible<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Maybe you\u2019re a little bit country, they\u2019re a little bit rock and roll. Maybe you\u2019re sporty and they\u2019re a nerd.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Can it still work out? It is true that people don\u2019t need to be similar to find love together but you know one true sign of incompatibility? Breaking up.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Like your bellybutton and the fake diamond stud you won at the state fair,<\/em> you two couldn\u2019t keep it together so how compatible could you be?<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Sure this is something of a self-fulfilling prophecy but definitely something to think about going forward. No matter how happy you think you could be together, if you can\u2019t stay together, you\u2019re better off apart.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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8. You\u2019re on the rebound<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You know how the rebound goes. You\u2019ve been broken up for a couple weeks, you\u2019re lonely, a little crazy, and you\u2019ll hop into the sack with the first thing with a pulse that says your shirt looks cool.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Don\u2019t let your ex be your rebound.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

It\u2019s tempting. They\u2019re there.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

They already know what you like in bed, and they\u2019re the one that hurt you so who better to make you feel good again?\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Careful there, Jack. Until you get over the breakup you can\u2019t be sure that this feeling isn\u2019t just a weird version of those rebound blues.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

9. Those good memories aren\u2019t gone<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

A lot of people are worried about breaking up because they think that it means it was all or nothing. Just because you broke up it doesn\u2019t mean you wasted your time.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

This comes from an old fashioned idea that people are supposed to meet one person, fall in love immediately and live together until you both die.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Even if marriage is your goal, relationships can end and still be valuable.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Your ex had some hand in changing your life for the better. They taught you new things. They provided stability and comfort and excitement.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

They proved that you are able to love and be loved by someone like them, someone you have a strong connection with.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

This means that you can do it again.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

These memories are not worthless just because you broke up. You should cherish them regardless.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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What\u2019s sure to taint those memories more than a breakup is dragging out the worst part of your relationship into a period of months or years of off again on again bullshit.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

These may be disheartening but please take them with a grain of salt.<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I\u2019m not saying getting back together is never a good option! I make it my business to help people get back together.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I\u2019m saying that you need to make sure that you\u2019re doing it for the right reasons.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

So consider each of these reasons before you decide if you should or shouldn\u2019t try to make things work with your ex.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

If you decide that you are going to try anyway, then I wish you luck. You must have found someone truly special.<\/p>\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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